Looks open a door. Values, energy and readiness decide whether anyone stays. Nine questions, about three minutes.
Your answers are yours.
Everything you pick is stored on this device only. Nobody sees your exact answers. When you finish, you get a short match signal , a few honest phrases you can choose to share so people can match you on substance instead of photos. The private questions never appear in it.
1. Readiness Honestly, how much room does your life have for someone right now?
No wrong answer. Being early is fine, pretending you're not is what causes damage.
Real room. I could build something. Some room. Slow but serious. Not much. I want connection, not a project. I'm still healing from something.
2. Readiness What are you actually looking for, not what sounds good?
Long-term partnership A relationship, no timeline on labels Dating to find out Friendship first, see where it goes
3. Values Which value do you refuse to compromise on?
Honesty, even when it's awkward Kindness, especially to strangers Loyalty and showing up Growth: I need someone who keeps evolving Freedom and independence Faith or spiritual practice
4. Valuesprivate, never shared When you and someone you love disagree, what do you do?
This one predicts more about a relationship than almost anything else.
Talk it out the same day Cool down first, then come back to it I tend to go quiet and hope it passes I get loud before I get clear
5. Chemistry & energy What kind of energy actually makes you feel alive around someone?
Calm. Nothing to perform. Playful. Constant bits and banter. Deep. Three-hour conversations. Adventurous. Go do something.
6. Chemistry & energyprivate, never shared Be honest, how much has looks alone driven your last few choices?
Only you see this. It exists so you can notice the pattern.
Mostly looks, if I'm being real Half looks, half vibe Mostly how they make me feel I've never really thought about it
7. Safety & boundaries Where are you willing to meet someone the first time?
Public place only Public place, and a friend knows where I am I'm flexible about it
8. Safety & boundariesprivate, never shared If someone pressured you past a limit, what would you do?
Leave. Immediately. Name it once, then leave if it continues I'd probably freeze or go along with it
9. Safety & boundaries What's one boundary you want respected from day one?
My pace, physical and emotional My alone time No pressure for constant texting No money talk or lending, ever
